Identify your type of loneliness.
It can take on a few different forms and it manifests differently in each person. For some people it's an inkling that comes and goes intermittently, for others it's strong but short-lived, but the reasoning is different for everyone.
Realize it's a feeling.
Step one to combating this is knowing that this feeling is just a feeling. It is not fact and therefore it is not permanent. It is ephemeral. Proverbially speaking, "this too shall pass." It has nothing to do with you as a social creature and everything to do with those little neurons in your head firing in an unfortunate, yet changeable, way. We can easily attack those and get them on a better track.
Take an objective look at your thinking.
True facts: lonely people tend to interpret situations more negatively. When Bill, your coworker gives you the cold shoulder one morning, you tend to think he's mad at you.
Stop thinking in terms of hard facts.
Because there's no such thing in this domain! Thinking, "I won't meet anyone I like," will not get you anywhere. You don't know this!Nothing is hard and fast here. Nothing. Because you could go somewhere tomorrow and meet a brand new group of friends you adore.
Know if you need to see a professional.
Sometimes loneliness is a symptom of a greater problem. If you feel like the entire world just doesn't get you, you may benefit from seeing a psychologist.
Know it's a self-fulfilling prophecy.
We've talked about your thinking and now we're going to talk about its results: if you think negatively, your results will be negative, too. If you walk into a party thinking no one will like you and you won't have fun, you'll spend the entire party on the wall, making zero connections and not having fun.
Take control of your negative thoughts.
With all the talking we've done about negativity, you can probably recognize which ones are negative and which ones aren't. But if you can't, take any thought you have about yourself or other people. If it's a fact, reword it. If it's assuming anything, reword it. And if it's discouraging, reword it.
Consider your personality.
Loneliness for an extrovert and loneliness for an introvert are two very different things. Explain your loneliness to someone different from you and they may not even be able to fake that they understand.
Avoid negative situations.
It's a bad idea to drink heavily, do drugs, or spend your life in front of the television. It's a doubly bad idea to do so if you're in a bad mood or feeling particularly lonely.
Get busy. Really. Do things to consume your time.
When you get too busy to slow down, you get too busy to think about your emotions and how life is affecting you. So volunteer.
Change your surroundings.
It's too easy to sit at home and waste away the day by yourself or with the cast of your favorite sitcom. The pangs of loneliness will just get worse and worse -- so get out!
Do stuff that makes you feel good.
Passion can replace just about anything. Pursuing yours can give you a sense of fulfillment that no person can. So what makes you feel good? Meditating? Reading European literature? Singing? Do it. Be selfish. Take most of your time and spend it on yourself.
Concentrate on your family.
Though it can be hard for those that crave independence, sometimes we have to depend on others, whether we like it or not, and your family is the best way to do that.
Go looking for opportunities to be social and take them.
They probably won't come to you, you know? So go searching online for a fitness class. Find a group of comic con aficionados.
Think about others.
When it comes down to it, being consumed with how we feel is a bit selfish. If you take yourself out of your own mind and start concentrating on sympathy, loneliness isn't even a thing you can feel.
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